Lately I’ve been thinking about the strong connection between happiness in our lives and our cravings.

When we are enjoying life and all the elements are in balance such as career, relationships, spirituality, exercise and the home, then we crave and eat less actual food.

All that we consider today as nutrition is really just a secondary source of energy because your life is your first source of nourishment.

Stay with me for a second…

Think back to a time when you were passionately in love.

Everything was exciting. You were floating on air and these feelings of exhilaration were enough to sustain you. You forgot about food and were high on life.

Or maybe this scenario resonates better…

You’re engrossed in the most exciting project ever, you are beyond thrilled to be a part of and your inner confidence is soaring.

Time stops and you barely realize that lunchtime was over 2 hours ago. You’re cubicle partner in crime gave you a nudge and some piece of juicy gossip that you missed at the cafeteria.

These are great examples of how we can USE LIFE TO REDUCE CRAVINGS and as a tool for both portion control and overeating.

Of course this works on the flip side as well.

How many times have you had a shitty day and turned to food for comfort? (*quietly and shamelessly raises hand*) 

Psst…it’s happened to the best of us. I know I’ve used food as my emotional escape plenty so know you’re not alone.

You eat whatever it is you think you’re cravings only to find that nothing you eat fills that void.

No chocolate, blueberry muffin, soft serve ice cream sundae or even those “you can’t have just one” salty chip comes close to giving you the satisfaction that you are truly desiring.


Because you weren’t actually craving food. You were CRAVING MORE LIFE.

This is a concept I use in my practice called primary foods. Primary foods feed us, but they don’t come on a plate.

Primary foods can be:

  • meaningful spiritual practice,
  • an inspiring career,
  • fun exciting social life
  • regular physical activity that you enjoy to do and
  • honest & open relationships

These are all things that feed your soul and your hunger for living. When these elements, or primary foods, are in balance then your cravings for the not-good-for-you foods go away.

When your primary foods are in balance then your cravings for the not-good-for-you foods go away.

The more primary food we receive, the less we depend upon secondary foods. 

The opposite is also true. The more we fill ourselves with secondary foods, the less we are able to receive the primary foods of life.

I’ve got a handout to help you with tracking your primary foods.

This exercise will help you to discover which primary foods you are missing the most.

The Circle of Life is a chart that has 12 sections. Look at each section and place a dot on the line marking how satisfied you are with each area of your life.

A dot placed at the center of the circle or close to the middle indicates dissatisfaction, while a dot placed on the periphery indicates ultimate happiness.

When you have placed a dot on each of the lines, connect the dots to see your circle of life.

You will have a clear visual of any imbalances in primary food and a starting point for determining where you may wish to spend more time and energy to create balance and joy in your life.

Click here to access the Circle of Life chart…

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